Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Wanting a Do-Over

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Summer is a great time for me to read books. I have read several education books, one novel, and a number of titles that have just interested me for months, if not years. One of those is a book by Danny Silk, Loving Your Kids on Purpose. 

I cannot begin to describe the conflicts this writing stirs in me.  Our four daughters are grown up and are very nice people, so I know we didn't fail as parents, but this book so makes me want a do-over.  I knew when we were raising them that I was very conflicted about our discipline style, and truthfully, I wasn't very good at being consistent because I just wanted to love my girls, shaping them gently.  The problem, of course, is that they had days where they just wanted to learn outside the gentle box.  Memories of losing my temper, spanking to not "spare the rod and spoil the child," trying to be the person with the power, are playing over and over like an unwanted advertising campaign in my head.  God knows that over the years I prayed almost daily that He would erase our mistakes and keep the girls' memories full of love and security, that they would fear God, not man, and love their neighbor (including their sisters!) as themselves, that they would hide His word in their hearts so they would not sin against Him.  My biggest problem was ME.  Ugh!  That is a nasty billboard displaying all the uglies.

So, now I have a chance at a "do-over of sorts."  That is with my children and their children.  Three of them have a copy of Danny's book.  All of them will have a shot at Love and Logic® --the basis of Danny's Loving on Purpose book.  It is, after all, what we wanted to teach them in the first place--that God loves them unconditionally, no matter what they do.  We all still need to discipline ourselves because in doing so we learn to become more Christ-like and love the Lord our God with all our hearts. We all still need to love our neighbor as ourselves because in doing so we show the love of God, His Son, and Holy Spirit in the home, the Church, the marketplace.

Still praying every day that God will erase all the mistakes we made and will fill them with His love and His character.

Monday, August 1, 2011

What have I been doing this summer?

 A little harvesting--very little.  There is a major drought happening with triple digit temperatures. It was 104 again today.
 A little working out.  My Pilates trainer thinks up new ways to challenge me weekly.

 A little partying.  We celebrated Gracie's third birthday at our house with the cousins!

 A little girl time--with the Rowdy Girls and with our girls.


 A little time just for the boys--Jonah and Grandpa did some science experiments in the kitchen.  This is not one of them, but was the preferred toy of the day.

A lot of Baby Music and Studio teaching this summer.  This is my first week to not teach.

And lots of praying and waiting for Baby McV to arrive!  Joy and Mike have the nursery ready to go and are just waiting for the big boy's birthday.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Definitely a mind-bloggling day!

Late yesterday afternoon Muffin and I left our cozy home while the temperature registered 112 on the car thermometer and 108 officially.  We headed east just as a thunderstorm rolled into town, so we missed all the excitement of cooler temperatures and moisture for a brief time. Driving to Dallas we met our darling baby child for dinner at a fabulous Mediterranean restaurant and ate till we almost cried "Souvlaka!" or something like that.  Muffin and I spent the night in his apartment, and he drove me to the DAL airport early this morning for his Father's Day present.  Not really.  Well, I really went to the airport, but not for his present.  I flew to Kansas City, MO on my way to Ottawa, KS for  Early Childhood Education Suzuki training this week.

It should have been easy--arrive at airport with boarding pass, check in at curbside with giant suitcase (I had to pack bedding for life in the dorm this week.), go through security check and wait for plane.  Wrong. It took almost 50 minutes to just get to security.  The line had nine switchbacks with people standing in line the width of the building because there were only two people checking boarding passes and ID's.  By the time I got to the gate I had 10 minutes before boarding.  The flight was nice, with plenty of room in the seat and only 2 of us in a 3 seat row.  However, there were about 30 high school forensic team members returning to Kansas City as winners in the national forensics competition in Dallas.  And they were all carrying trophies and plaques and were pretty loud for the first part of the short flight.  When we arrived I went straight to baggage claim and waited, and waited, and w.a.i.t.e.d..... because each of the 30ish students had packed tubs and tubs of files for their debate events and they were slowly being spit out of the carousel pit onto the carousel with duct tape flying off, all mixed with luggage and golf clubs.  That only took 35 minutes.

Finally boarded the shuttle to car rental terminal where I expected to quickly pick up the car we reserved online--paperwork in hand. Entered the terminal and there was no line at all at the Budget desk.  In about 2 minutes I was out the door and packed into a spiffy red KIA and off to the kiosk to check out of the airport area.  That's when the worker found, for the first time today, that my TX drivers license had expired in April.  TX always sends notices for renewal and I never received one.  Budget refused to give me the contract and sent me back to the desk to see the manager, who also refused. BUT, and I do mean BIG BUT.... I had the key to their car and all my stuff locked in it!  So, I sat down and renewed my DL online and took screen shots on my iPhone and showed it to them.  And NO, still they wouldn't print it or write a contract.  They politely offered to take the key away from me and I refused until I made other arrangements, but did it very sweetly.  I called Muffin and he prayed. I went to the ladies room and I prayed. And on my way to the Alamo desk, the Lord said, "Go to the Enterprise desk."  And I did it!

At the Budget desk a very nice young man named J. told me I could email the screen shots to his personal email and he would print them for me.  I did and he did and he was nice enough to tell me to go back to Budget with their key in my hand and their paperwork in my hand.  The Budget manager still refused to write the contract. So, back to Enterprise.  They couldn't have been nicer.  Contract written, a very nice young lady, C., escorted me out to my silver Fiat that matches my hair, and pulled my giant luggage herself.  She even hoisted it into the teeny weeny trunk where it had to be turned "just so" to get the hatch closed.  Paperwork signed, more money spent, cell phone map app opened, I headed for lunch.  At 2:30ish I left a McDonald's in the area and drove southwest to Ottawa.

Arriving here I went to the building where I was directed by email for registration and room assignments.  Closed. Locked. Signs on door to walk to different place.  Arrived there and my name tag was literally the very last one at the bottom of the very last pile.  It had a key, an entrance badge, and a sticky note with the room number.  However, no one knew where to park the car or where my packet was.  I waited another 30 minutes while they made calls and learned that for some reason, I don't get mine until tomorrow.  Back to car. Drive to dorm lot. Unload all possessions, move in, only 30 minutes until dinner is served.

After dinner and a visit with old and new teacher friends I headed to Wal Mart to purchase bottled water, fruit, and a pillow.  Found everything quickly and headed for the express checkout where a couple was just finishing.  Their card wasn't just declined, it was making the scanners whine and cry and throw tantrums.  Seriously, it would refuse the PIN, then say it was waiting on the customer, then refuse the PIN again, then tell the checker to do something, then refuse the PIN.  I had already unpacked my basket or I could have moved to another line quickly.  Finally the lady ahead decided to write an electronic check and that required yet another out-of--the-ordinary process from the checker.  Trip to Wal Mart--almost 1 hour.  I'm headed for the shower.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Bloggles the Mind Again: Ready to pick a fight?

Bloggles the Mind Again: Ready to pick a fight?

Ready to pick a fight?

In Matthew 11:12, Christ Jesus states that the Kingdom of Heaven is established by both faith and force:
"And from the days of John the Baptist until now the Kingdom of Heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force."
We are to contend for the faith. This warning is addressed very specifically in the book of Jude:
"Beloved, while I was very diligent to write to you concerning our common salvation, I found it necessary to write to you exhorting you to contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all delivered to the saints."
This Greek word epagonizomai, translated contend, occurs only once in the New Testament here in Jude. It is a term used by Greek historians to describe physical battles. The Lord is exhorting us to contend earnestly for the faith as if we were fighting a war.
From Elijah List, June 14, 2011 written by Bobby Connor

It is rare that I feel contentious.  Confrontation is unnatural for me and most of my family members.  Maybe it's the drought and triple digit record-breaking temperatures.  Maybe the time has just come. But I feel like standing my ground, and like David's men, defend my bean patch, however humble it is.  I have been looking at the sky and declaring that it WILL rain until we just don't need any more of it.  I have been looking at my personal life and declaring victory, even though I don't see it. I have been declaring that my joints, muscles, sinuses, especially my left knee and my hands, are healed, because I pray "Thy kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven" and there is NO injury and illness in heaven.  There is no plantar fasciatis,  no migraine headache, no Asperger's, no ADHD, no sensory deficit of any kind, no cancer, no big or little disease in heaven.  And Jesus didn't leave anything unfinished when He left the cross!  

Ready to pick a fight?

In Matthew 11:12, Christ Jesus states that the Kingdom of Heaven is established by both faith and force:
"And from the days of John the Baptist until now the Kingdom of Heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force."
We are to contend for the faith. This warning is addressed very specifically in the book of Jude:
"Beloved, while I was very diligent to write to you concerning our common salvation, I found it necessary to write to you exhorting you to contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all delivered to the saints."
This Greek word epagonizomai, translated contend, occurs only once in the New Testament here in Jude. It is a term used by Greek historians to describe physical battles. The Lord is exhorting us to contend earnestly for the faith as if we were fighting a war.
From Elijah List, June 14, 2011 written by Bobby Connor

It is rare that I feel contentious.  Confrontation is unnatural for me and most of my family members.  Maybe it's the drought and triple digit record-breaking temperatures.  Maybe the time has just come. But I feel like standing my ground, and like David's men, defend my bean patch, however humble it is.  I have been looking at the sky and declaring that it WILL rain until we just don't need any more of it.  I have been looking at my personal life and declaring victory, even though I don't see it. I have been declaring that my joints, muscles, sinuses, especially my left knee and my hands, are healed, because I pray "Thy kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven" and there is NO injury and illness in heaven.  There is no plantar fasciatis,  no migraine headache, no Asperger's, no ADHD, no sensory deficit of any kind, no cancer, no big or little disease in heaven.  And Jesus didn't leave anything unfinished when He left the cross!  

Monday, June 13, 2011

Three years

Dear Dubbie,
It has been three years today since I watched you walk past that open gate in heaven to eternity.  So three years means nothing in eternity.  On earth it means that Gracie is almost three years old and never saw you. It means that Joy and Mike have now been married four years and will soon have a baby boy. Becky and Michael have been married 9 years, and Christel and Jamie 15 years.  It means that Jonah just finished a year in school, that Ruby and Emme are getting ready for Kindergarten, and they were barely talking well when you went through the gate.  Abigail finished a year of college, and she was still a child when you stopped looking back at us and started looking forward into heaven's glories.  I didn't know anything at all about Early Childhood Education for Suzuki babies that day and now I'm teaching them things that you and Nannie taught me and our girls.  Monte began conference calling with our guys tonight--just to pray with them each week.  I know you would like that lots.  Nannie is being brave and fighting a good fight, but she misses you terribly, as we all do.  Thanks for tending the gardens and keeping the watering holes company and please enjoy all the music that heaven has to offer while you're waiting for us.